Lovely friend, do you ever feel like you’re “supposed to be” experiencing a very different life?
I do. It’s a feeling I’ve had on-and-off throughout my life.
And I don’t think I’m alone.
For a long time I thought this was a key part of being a high-achiever, a goal-setter, a planner.
I thought this motivated me and inspired me to strive for more. And sometimes it does.
But, many times, it created pain.
When the life I’m sensing that I’m “supposed to be” living is radically different than my present life, it can stir up discontentment, resentment, grief.
And, you guessed it, anxiety.
Feeling you’re supposed to be living a different life can affect your ability to experience and evolve your present life to the fullest.
Two questions transformed my relationship with this feeling.
They changed this experience into something self-empowering, self-compassionate and magical.
And I want to share the questions with you.
It all centers on the concept of parallel lives.
The idea that we lead parallel lives arises from the multiverse theory, which suggests our universe is one of many universes that exist parallel to each other.
Simply put, it’s the idea that there are many, many versions of you, experiencing very different yet parallel lives.
During one particularly painful “this isn’t supposed to be this way” moment in my life, my beautiful Soul invited me to consider two questions:
– What’s the healing and wisdom that this parallel self is offering you?
– What’s the healing and wisdom that you can offer your parallel self?
This frankly blew my mind in the moment.
At the time, I was feeling deep grief that my children will never have an earthly relationship with either of their grandmothers.
I was imagining the beautiful relationships they would have had. This was causing me pain.
These Soul-led questions helped lift me out of that pain.
They brought forth a deep knowing that — in a parallel life — this is exactly the experience they’re having.
And that’s precisely why we can feel it so strongly. Because it exists in a parallel life.
This created a welcome sense of lightness, peace and wonder.
And the idea of being able to give and receive with this parallel life was deeply empowering.
So, I encourage you to try this as well!
First, the next time you have the “it’s not supposed to be this way” feeling, consider it an invitation to envision your parallel life, and welcome the healing and wisdom your parallel self is offering you.
Then, feel into what healing and wisdom you can offer that parallel life. This reciprocity takes it all to a higher level.
You may be very surprised what comes up!
Know this could be about any aspect of your life: health, relationships, career, finances, etc.
I recently connected with a parallel self that’s single, with no children and travels the world creating nature documentaries. (A career dream I had as a child.)
Her life can be exciting and adventurous. Yet, she also experiences great loneliness and isolation.
We had much healing and wisdom to provide each other. 💕
As always, doing mystical work like this outside, with nature, is wonderfully grounding and nurturing. Nature helps us connect across the multiverse more efficiently and effectively.
You are so deeply wise.
xoxo,
Steph